Ephesians 4:2
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
The Christmas season can be a difficult time for many of us at any time in our lives for a variety of reasons. Maybe this is the first year you’re finding it difficult or perhaps you dread it coming around every year.
Some very valid reasons for struggling with this holiday season may include financial difficulties, loss of a loved one, loneliness, social anxiety, mental health issues, ill health, trauma, family breakdown or peer pressure.
It is ok to feel very overwhelmed by the immense pressure from society to “enjoy” the season, buy gifts for everyone, cook festive treats and meals, entertain, have the finest Christmas tree, or brightest lit house….. the list goes on and the stress mounts.
How can we ease the “burden” that Christmas can become.
1. Money worries - be honest with yourself and others about what you can afford. Budget. Take a social media break to avoid comparing. Look for free or low cost gifts and events to attend. Make your own gifts. Access financial advice and support if needed.
2. Looking after You - know your boundaries and say no to things that aren’t helpful or are upsetting for you. Take the time out you need. Distract yourself with non Christmas activities, films, hobbies. Try a new activity or stick to your normal as much as possible. Remind yourself it is a season and will end.
3. Plan ahead - think about what you will need to help get you through, include as much of your normal routine as possible. know your triggers and avoid things that might be upsetting/stressful. Plan something special for after Christmas so you have something to look forward to.
4. Support from others - if you’re not able to visit others plan phone calls or video calls. Don’t be afraid to let others know how they can help you. Talk to others in similar situations like an online community. Don’t feel pressure to explain everything to everyone, it’s ok to just say this season is not easy for you. If you find it difficult to talk to friends and family then write down how you feel to help them understand. If you are visiting others suggest activities, walks, games that will help you or take time out in another room if you need a break. Choose your company carefully, surround yourself with those who will listen and truly care.
5. Know where to access further help -
Mind mental health services
Cruse bereavement charity
Age UK
Beat eating disorders help
Compassionate friends
Men’s advice line
MoneyHelper
National domestic abuse line
NHS 111
Samaritans
Relate
Tommy’s
The Trussell Trust
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